What I would say to myself -five years ago and five years on?

9 Jun

Written by Kirri White.  Follow me on twitter or facebook.

You can also contact me by email –  kirri@happymumsathome.com

This post is part of the #trust30 writing initiative, inspired by Ralph Waldo Emersons “Self-reliance” that encourages you to look within and trust yourself.  You can find further details regarding the challenge here.

Day eight prompt by Author: Corbett Barr

What would you say to the person you were five years ago? What will you say to the person you’ll be in five years?

What would I say to the person I was five years ago?

All that hurt you’re still carrying around?  The raw grief that separates you from others, leaving you both fragile and indifferent? The experience of having your anchor stripped violently away from its mooring, leaving you alone, lost, untethered?

As unbearable as it still seems now…..you will move forward.  The pain will endure but with less power and gravity. You will learn to keep it tucked away in your pocket and surprisingly, there will come a time when you can draw strength from his memory and smile at his face.

From this place of heartache, you will learn, grow and love more than you ever imagined.  You will experience first hand that death does not have the power to end a relationship. Love endures and binds forever.

And that ugly little voice that used to taunt about death and pain and illness?  It will become a benign reminder that this month, day or year could be your last.

So you had better make the most of it!  Seriously.

And you do.

What will you say to the person you will be in five years?

You are one lucky beeyatch! 

Where did you get those shoes?


There will be an agreement in whatever variety of actions, so they be each honest and natural in their hour. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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3 Responses to “What I would say to myself -five years ago and five years on?”

  1. TerryMurphy June 10, 2011 at 9:59 am #

    OMG…weeping! Wonderfully put, both past and future (awesome, love the shoes!)

    Last Sunday I attended a fund-raiser for the hospice where my Father died 10 years ago. Sunday would have been his 91st birthday. When I passed a small donation to one of the organisers she asked me why. I choked and could not tell her. I feel you K.

    As for what I would like to say to myself 5 yrs ago…”wake up and smell the roses, you have no idea what you have do you?” And in 5 years time…very, very like your comment, except the phrase is “nice car!”

    Thnx for inspiring me to think, every day.

  2. Amy@NewAdventures June 12, 2011 at 1:04 pm #

    Well written Kiri – and i love the note to future you!

  3. Lina@MothersLoveLetters June 14, 2011 at 11:46 am #

    Hi Kirri. Great questions. And great answers. And you know what, the thing you would tell your future-self, you could tell yourself right now… 🙂 Thank you for sharing.

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