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Australia’s Biggest Morning Tea 2011

5 May


An ugly disease. It has the power to instill blind fear and insufferable pain.

Cancer also leaves many survivors in its wake. Those who fought and won. Everyday people with amazing stories that deserve to be celebrated.

I have even read reports of people who are thankful to have ‘tussled’ with cancer. Battlers’ whose lives have now become so precious that they live every day with wonder and gratitude.

In my personal experience though, cancer is a thief. It crept into my life without warning and stole my dad years before any of us were ready to say goodbye. Ten months from prognosis to ashes.

Who hasn’t been touched by cancer? I guarantee that if you are reading this, you will know someone whose life has been irrevocably altered by cancer. A family member, friend, or someone you once went to school with. Cancer is everywhere.

Sorry to be a downer guys, but I do admit to possessing a bit of a hate-on for cancer!

This is why I feel truly honoured to have been asked to promote Australia’s Biggest Morning Tea by the NSW Cancer council’s media office.

It’s a way of joining the fight – increasing awareness and helping raise money to fund vital cancer research, prevention, information and support services.

Officially held on May 26, you are invited to switch on the kettle, register now and invite your friends, colleagues and family to join Australia’s Biggest Morning Tea in May and help reduce the impact of cancer in Australia.

Who: Get together friends, family, school mates, work colleagues, or anyone who wants to help beat cancer in your community.

When: The official date is Thursday 26 May, but you can hold a morning tea any time during May (or June).

Where: Anywhere! You can hold your morning tea at home, at work, at school, or in your local town hall. The possibilities are endless!

How: Hosting a morning tea is easy. Register here

On the website, you can also access some yummy recipes from the likes of Callum Hann and Adriano Zumbo

It doesn’t matter how big or small your morning tea is. Invite your friends, family or work-mates and encourage them to donate to the cause.

Finally, if you don’t have time to host a morning tea yourself, you can make a tax deductible donation right here.

Get your cake n cuppa on!


Living the Dream while Raising a Family

3 Jan

When I became a parent for the first time in 2004, I had little idea as to how much my world would change. You would think that a gestation period of nine months, a relentless desire to consume every leading birth and parenting book published in Australia, and a supportive, loving partner, would keep one in reasonable stead for parenthood.  Think again!

While I was forewarned about the loss of sleep, the re-direction of focus from myself to another human being and the need for a more restrained social life; I had not expected the all-consuming feelings of love, worry, guilt and at times, isolation.  Nor was I prepared for the painful loss of my wonderful father to that ugly disease cancer, just three months prior to having my daughter.  The intense grief was a lonely path that few of my friends had experienced and even fewer wished to acknowledge.  My guess is that it was just too confronting.  While my daily life seemed to be turning into a repetitious existence comparable to Groundhog Day, everyone around me seemed to be travelling at warp speed.  Life after the death of a loved one really does go on (at least for the unaffected around you), and that observation, hit me hard.

My new work environment (home) and the lack of consistent daily contact with friends and colleagues lead me to a lonely and confusing place where my feelings of positive self-identity morphed and eroded.  Now, when I looked in the mirror, I found myself unsteadied by the image of a newer version of me – one that I did not always recognise or feel comfortable with.

It seems that other people also had trouble recalling the old me.  Friendships were neglected or threatened by the fact that I was no longer readily available for late night outings or spontaneous adventures abroad.  I no longer received the Thursday night shout outs to see what was going down on the weekend, nor did I have personal work dramas to commiserate over with my fellow comrades. My invisibility as an individual became glaringly apparent a few years and a set of perfect twins later, when I questioned one of my husband’s friends about how he had fared in a recent job interview.  His response “Oh I think I nailed it! I knew all the answers to the questions they asked me. It would be like someone asking you about being a mum – it’s all you have ever really known so it was pretty easy.”

Ouch!  As I sat there with what I hoped was an encouraging smile on my face, my internal voice screamed something along the lines of like “Excuse me?! I have two degrees, have travelled to at least 10 countries having all sorts of life changing experiences, had considerable professional success in a range of areas, a passion for learning new things and a wardrobe of skinny jeans and high heels and I am not, (repeat NOT) JUST a mummy!”

Fast forward to almost 7 years of being “just” a mummy and I have to admit that it has only been the past three years or so that I have readily embraced the term.  Being a parent does not define all of who I am but it’s definitely my most important role. I have never worked harder at something, learnt so much about human psychology and physiology, or experienced such intense joys.

This blog reflects my personal journey to becoming a ‘happy mum at home’.  It is also a place where I will share valuable resources and information on how I choose daily to “live the dream while raising a family”.  As a parent, success coach and more importantly a human being, I believe I am a lot like you.

I strive to live a life beyond mediocrity, a life of greatness that is measured by the amount I live, love and learn. While I do not profess to have all the answers, I might just have some of them – garnered through a lot of study, research, reading, beta-testing, and numerous moments of frustration and despair!

So, as I welcome you to my blog, I also thank you in advance for your comments and sharing of experience.  I hope you enjoy it and find something of relevance to your life.

You can check out my business services at website  follow me on twitter    like me lots on facebook or email me at kirri@happymumsathome.com.

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